Honoring Memorial Day: Grief, Gratitude, and Mental Health Support
As Memorial Day approaches, we prepare to honor those who have made the ultimate sacrifice while serving in the U.S. military. For many, this day is a time of reflection, remembrance, and deep emotional significance.
While often associated with barbecues and long weekends, Memorial Day holds much more weight—especially for veterans, military families, and those who have experienced the loss of a loved one in service. As a mental health counselor, I want to take a moment to acknowledge not only the courage of those we honor but also the emotional toll that this holiday may bring.
Memorial Day and Grief
Grief is a complex emotion, and holidays like Memorial Day can intensify feelings of sorrow, longing, or unresolved pain. Whether the loss is recent or occurred decades ago, this day may bring a wave of emotions—especially if you've lost someone in service.
How to Support Your Mental Health on Memorial Day:
Allow yourself space to grieve: It's okay to cry, reminisce, or feel angry. All emotions are valid.
Create a ritual of remembrance: Write a letter, visit a memorial, light a candle, or share stories.
Connect with others: Talking to others who understand your experience can be healing.
Practice self-compassion: Give yourself permission to step away from social obligations if you need to.
Supporting Veterans and Families
For veterans, Memorial Day may stir feelings of survivor’s guilt, trauma, or emotional disconnection. This is especially true for those living with PTSD or moral injury. If you or someone you know is a veteran navigating difficult emotions around this time, support is available.
Resources to Consider:
Local counseling services
Veterans Crisis Line: 1-800-273-8255 (Press 1)
Peer support groups for veterans and military families
Balancing Grief and Gratitude
While Memorial Day is rooted in solemn remembrance, it can also be a time of gratitude—a day to honor the lives given and reflect on how we carry their legacy forward.
Ask yourself:
How can I live in a way that honors their sacrifice?
What does freedom mean to me?
How can I use this day as a moment of reconnection—with others and with myself?
If You're Struggling, You're Not Alone
Grief, trauma, and emotional overwhelm don’t take a day off. If Memorial Day is especially difficult for you, consider reaching out for support. Therapy can be a space to process your feelings, find tools for coping, and begin to heal.
